For generations, female sexual desire has been an elusive rascal. Appearing and disappearing with no discernible scientific pattern. Doctors, scientists, frustrated lovers and voodoo sorcerors have done everything imaginable to find the causes and develop remedies. I’ve struggled with it on my own, as most women (and their lovers) eventually do.
For this reason, the June issue of Psychology Today is the most magnificent issue of all time.
Obviously, this does not help women in committed relationships. There is a better (and cheaper) solution than divorce or adultery. It’s called Mindfulness.
According to the article, science has discovered that we women are so detached from our bodies we don’t notice our own arousal. Evidently, the processes are not as streamlined in women as they are in men and are therefore more easily disconnected.
If you can’t tell what you’re own vagina is doing… how are you supposed to use it?
This disconnection is caused by the usual suspects: poor body image, stress, distraction, etc. All of these are all caused by the same thing: thinking too much. Overthinking, which brings you out of the moment, is destroying our sexual desire. [Fun Fact: If you don't use your sexual desire, you might lose it, especially if you're entering your golden years.]
For any woman suffering from a lack of desire, it’s time to stop blaming your schedule, your partner, your hormones, your age or the state of your body. Your body still works and is more than ready to play. All you have to do is get back in touch with the present moment.
And there’s no better time to start being in the moment than right now.
